By Caroline Bujold
I love this quote from Brené Brown: “Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfectly, look perfectly and act perfectly, we can avoid the pain of blame, judgment and shame.“
I could talk all day long on how perfectionism is the opposite of getting things done and how getting organized has everything to do with simplifying your life.
Trying to have everything perfect is paralyzing. One little thing goes wrong, gets out of place or is just not quite right and everything falls apart.
Perfectionism is trying to be in control, but giving up your power to how other people perceive you. “Perfectionism is just fear in really good shoes“ – Elizabeth Gilbert
Trying to be perfect is exhausting and the cause of much disappointment, burnout and sometimes depression. It’s impossible to please yourself and everyone else, or learn without making some mistakes. Aim for YOUR best, give yourself the permission to experiment and fail.
One trick that has helped me move past analysis-paralysis, or the desire to have the perfect plan or enough time, is to break down a project into small steps, the smaller the better; tasks that would take between 10 to 30 minutes maximum.
For example, instead of purging your whole closet, sit down with one pile of clothes, or just your t-shirts and purge the hell out of that. Take a rest and congratulate yourself for crossing off that one thing. The next day, or next week, move on to the next pile. Just do one thing that won’t overwhelm you. It won’t be perfect, but soon you’ll at least see progress, and that’s the best feeling in the world.
Organizing is like a muscle. You need to exercise it a little before you can use it to it’s full potential.